I follow a couple health pages and mom pages and health/mom pages on facebook and more often than not I see posts saying something along the lines of, “I had my baby 6 weeks ago and still haven’t lost the weight, what can I do?”
I’ll admit this was me with my second baby (for some reason I didn’t focus on my body with my first). Not only did the scale not reflect the number I thought it should, but also looking in a mirror, my body was just different. It took me a long time to come around to the idea that it was going to take a while for my body to change and it may never look the way it did before baby.
However, why is there this pressure to return to our pre-baby bodies so quickly after having a baby? This is really an unrealistic expectation for most women and yet we still allow ourselves to feel this pressure. It is so easy to compare one person’s journey to another’s but everyone’s body is so different.
I remember standing in front of my closet and just crying because none of my pre-baby clothes fit me. Now I think to myself….of course they didn’t. It took nine months for my body to change and grow to accommodate my little baby, how could I possibly think my body would bounce back so quickly.
All of that said, here is what I learned:
- Buy the clothes. Yes the change is temporary (or not) and you may only wear them for a month or 2 or more, but for me, I felt way more comfortable with my body when I was wearing clothes that actually fit.
- Breastfeeding does not always mean weight loss (like so many people will tell you). Yes you may lose some of the initial weight quicker but I was hungry all the time trying to keep up with production. I also noticed that even when my hunger started balancing out and I began eating better and exercising regularly, I still held onto weight in certain areas.
- Listen to your significant other. My husband would tell me time and time again how great I looked and how beautiful I am. I always shrugged it off but really whose opinion matters more than the person who loves me most?
- Be patient. Healing takes time. Changes take time. Like I said earlier, it took nine months to grow your little human, it is going to take some time for your body to heal.
- Make time to take care of yourself. This might mean 5 minutes or it might mean an hour. It might mean exercising or it might mean napping. Do what makes you happy and feel good about it. There are so many things to worry about with a little baby that the way our body looks does not need to be one of those stressors.
- Be kind to yourself. I began thinking about the things I was telling myself and realized I would NEVER say that to someone else who just had a baby. Be patient with your progress and be kind to yourself. Your body has done an amazing thing….it grew a human!
So hang in there mom. In the eyes of your baby you are perfect in every way and exactly what your little child needs right now. Every mom has a different journey so remember that! #selflove #teammom